Stop the Parenting Perfectionism
Please for the love of God, stop proclaiming how perfect you are and shaming all those who you deem to be beneath you in the parenting hierarchy.
This weekend’s events at the Cincinnati Zoo leading a young boy and his family traumatized and a gorilla dead is just the latest in this never ending parent perfectionism. All over social media we see self-proclaimed perfect parents who this could “never happen to”.
I wonder, do you have a working magic 8 ball or have you seen a physic who has given you proof this will “never happen to you”? What makes your parenting so much better than anyone else’s that this will never happen to you?
Newsflash: We’re all trying our best. We’re all trying to figure this out. We are all HUMAN BEINGS.
I find it almost impossible that these parents have never been in a situation where their child was out of their site for a few moments. I myself have, multiple times. The one that sticks out the most?
My daughter was about a month old and I decided to take my son to story time at Pottery Barn Kids. As we were walking into the mall, I paused to collapse the umbrella and open up the canopy from the stroller. I looked up and my then 2 year old son was GONE. VANISHED forever. About 2.5 seconds later, after I started frantically started calling his name like a mad woman, he came out from behind the mall directory looking all cute.
Another time, we were at the park and I saw my son toddling to open part of the playground, I was yelling for him to not go that way because he would fall. I started running to try to get up there to stop him. But, sometimes playground equipment is not that easy to get to someone with the twist and turns. He fell from about 4 feet up in the air, landing on his hands and knees. Another mom helped him while I was navigating my way back down from the equipment. She had a nasty, judgmental look on her face because I was not there watching him. While in fact I was trying to save him.
You may not agree with me. That is OK. I understand. But, I am so tired of seeing bullies make moms feel less than because in someone else’s eyes they aren’t perfect.
Let’s stop using other mom’s flaws to make ourselves feel good about ourselves!