Stop stressing our kids out!
Kindergarten for my son was probably one of the worst times of his life. We had half day kindergarten in our district and it is sad how much they jam packed into the 2 and a half hours a day. There was no art, music, crafts, play time or recess. Snack time was a working snack, meaning they worked while they ate. From the minute they arrived in class, they just went from one task to the next. At 5, 6 years old.
At the end of the year, I was told that my son needed to be evaluated by the occupational therapist because of his writing. What did I know, I am just a concerned parent. The OT evaluated him and said he did not need any services. By the time we got to the beginning of November of 1st grade, his teacher let me know he was already behind in his reading level (at the beginning of 1st grade?!) and she was having him evaluated by the OT again because of his writing. This time, the OT said he did need services by the school would not be able to help him since he was not classified as a special education student.
Fast forward to February, I had him privately evaluated by an OT and she recommended 15 weeks of occupational therapy, plus vision therapy. The OT is covered by insurance, the vision therapy is not. Vision Therapy costs as much as $800 a month. Her recommendations came because he has issues with visual spatial relations.
After speaking with a new eye doctor who is very trusted in his field today, we came to the conclusion that my son does not need Vision Therapy.
I am so annoyed by all of this. We have been dealing with issues since my son started Pre-K. This is his 2nd round of OT. Two and a half years of stress because our schools have such stressful conditions now. At 7 years old, he is expected to have perfect handwriting.
His kindergarten teacher would send home EVERY.SINGLE.PIECE of paper full of red lines and corrections. How would that make YOU feel? Well, I can tell you it made my 5 year old feeling very defeated everyday. As if he could do nothing right. Between the constant hustle of the day and then this, it was just a bad combination.
Why do we expect so much of our children so young? They are still babies. They are still trying to figure out the world. They’re expected to be mature. They are expected to know right from wrong, when no one takes the time to show them. All of these stressors find their way home to us parents who have to deal with the fall out. We have to deal with making sure our kids are at grade level, age level or any level that some ranking official who probably doesn’t even have children, made.
Can we please just let our kids, be KIDS?!